Jody Dyer
A love story of faith and family!
"No one just adopts."
From the very first steps of acknowledging adoption as a choice to the final document that seals the deal, Jody Cantrell Dyer paints a raw, warm, heartbreaking and eventually triumphant portrayal that narrates the entire adoption process through compassionate and humorous prose. 

Author Jody Cantrell Dyer’s candor, wit, humor, and soul color each page of The Eye of Adoption. She directly addresses the sorrows of infertility and the demands of adoption while consistently word-weaving a life rope of assurance and optimism for her readers. A middle-aged wife, mother, and teacher, Dyer “tells it like it is” in hopes that waiting adoptive parents, birthparents, adoptees, and those close to them will find kinship through her story.

Voted a "Favorite Read of 2013"
by Adoptive Families Magazine


Do like to read love stories? Are you touched by adoption? Are you struggling to conceive? Are you a birth parent, an adoptive parent, or an adoptee? Do you love someone affected by infertility, a crisis pregnancy, or adoption? If so, I wrote this book for you.

I am a middle-aged mother of two children—one biological and one adopted. Folks, that is not as simple as it sounds. I went through the gauntlet to add a second child to my family, and I know many of you can relate.

From The Eye of Adoption: “Because adoption is a spiritual transaction conducted within a commercial industry, success in adoption requires involvement from what seems like everyone connected to the adoptive parents. Thus, adoptive parents’ friends, relatives, co-workers, and even pets will find themselves here, too. I urge anyone connected to waiting parents to read my story to empathize with the adoptive family and perhaps alleviate, not complicate, the inevitable burdens. Do not underestimate the depths of suffering and lengths of endurance required of adoptive parents. Do not underestimate the difficult choice to find a child through adoption. No one just adopts.”

The open tone of The Eye of Adoption matches my personality: honest, friendly, and down-to-earth. I talk directly to readers because I want you to feel like, no matter where you are in the infertility, adoption, or placement process, you have a friend who understands you. I say (in print) exactly what many of you are thinking! After struggling to conceive for six years, then clumsily (yet successfully) adopting, to now navigating an open adoption with my child's birth parents, I felt compelled to write this book. I felt that someone needed to "tell it like it is" so others would be better equipped to handle the turbulent and triumphant, mysterious and magical, beautiful burdensome blessing of adoption.


"If God can work through me, He can work through anyone." —Francis of Assisi

These are a few of Jody's Adoption related articles & guest posts.
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Dyer's son Houston drew the artwork (featured on the book's back cover) in first grade as a Mother's Day gift, two years before he met his sibling. Do you see the waiting baby above the waiting family? From the book, "Even Houston sensed the ethereal nature of our wait for a baby."

Chapter titles from The Eye of Adoption

Blueprints for Footprints
The Enemy: Infertility
Sweet Offers and Great Sex Advice
Grief and Grief in Reverse
Helpful, Hurtful, and Ridiculous Reactions
So Personal and So Public
Big Chick If You Have To!
I Am Not Crazy. Neither Are You.
Par for the Course
Adoption in the Age of Mass Media
The Leap of Faith
Surviving the Wait
Shaken, Not Stirred
Big News at Baskin-Robbins
Business as Usual, Not
Home, But Not Home Free
Safe in the Outfield
How Do You Say Thank-You?